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How to raise successful kids -- without over-parenting - Julie Lythcott-Haims

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By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. Former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims, makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love.

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